Dear Distressed,
Well, the key word I see here is Christian
, so they have a counselor
within them and His name is the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit uses the Bible to
do all His counseling. Now, do not get me wrong. I am not against Christian counseling,
but why not allow the Holy Spirit and His word to work first? Jesus says very
clearly in John 16:13: However, when He, the Spirit of truth, has
come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own
authority
,
but whatever He
hears He will speak; and He will tell you things to come.
When we are saved, we have the person of the
Holy Spirit living in us to help us with all things, including our flesh!
The husband needs to get in the Bible and
see how God would want him to treat his wife with respect and honor. Most and
foremost, the children are watching him disrespect his wife and her work at
cooking and cleaning. To allow someone to wait and food get cold, that is sure
naughty!
Always remember, as an outsider we never
know the whole truth in a matter. So the wife might need to change a few things
too, as the Holy Spirit helps her. Maybe they need to sit and talk about a
later dinner and if changes need to be made around the house. Communication is where
one person talks and the other person listens; then the other person talks, and
the other person listens. Then the understanding goes from listening to hearing
and to application of what has been learned.
Marriage is not 50/50 but 100/100! Both
people must be giving 100 percent of themselves to the other. Thinking of the
other’s feelings greater than their own.
Single people reading this, take head who
you marry! Make sure he/she is first a Christian; then living with this
concept! Each must put aside their flesh which means “me and mine and what is
in it for me!”
If you have children
or are going to one day, have the children remember first and foremost that they
belong to God. Parents are only stewards over them and are highly accountable
before God as to how and what we teach them. Children learn from our words
and
how we live our Christian life. I hope this helps put things in perspective for
you.
