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Irritated One

Dear Judy,

 

I am having a hard time dealing with unsaved people in my family. They curse, they get angry easily, and sometimes they drink, among other things. I don’t even want to be around them! What does the Bible say about not wanting to be around people like that in your family? I get irritated easily when I’m with them. While I love them, most of the time I don’t even like them, and I’m ashamed of feeling this way.

Dear Irritated One,

 

Because you are born again and a follower of Christ, you now have the Holy Spirit to lead you into all truth and show you things to come. Whether it is family or not, it is hard not to get irritated when evil things are going on around us.

Unsaved people think and do things differently than believers in Jesus. When we become saved, the things of this world should cause us to be agitated! We now live by what the Bible says and the principles of the Kingdom of God, not the world. The words of the prophet Isaiah speak volumes to us. Isaiah 5:20: Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who put darkness for light, and light for darkness; Who put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! Before we came to Christ and gave our life to Jesus, we too lived in darkness and did not know the light of Jesus Christ.


We are to pray for the unsaved, but we cannot participate in their wrong! No reason to be ashamed because Jesus speaks about separating ourselves from evil, and family is the hardest. Jesus teaches us very clearly that He did not come to bring peace but to separate the righteous from the unrighteous! Jesus said in Matthew 10:34-37, Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law;  and a man's enemies will be those of his own household. These are hard words but necessary for the Christian to understand and to stand for the truth of the Gospel, no matter who it is, even our family members. 


Stay in prayer and the Word. Trust and believe. Just as our Lord drew us to salvation, He shall draw others.


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